Foundation of Success: Self Confidence, part 1 of 4

5. July 2010 by HealingMindN.

There are certain basic foundations of character that I do not cover at my site. One of them is self confidence. We need self confidence to trust our instincts, our intuition, and, of course, our psychic powers.

We all must take those necessary steps, no matter how small, in order to bolster and strengthen our self confidence to do what’s necessary and good for ourselves and the people closest to us.

Since I was very young, I had a kind of “shell” that detoured from self confidence. As I recall from when I was a 5th grader with Miss English as my instructor, there was an after school music instructor who introduced concepts of music to the class by our participation in a song with one note xylophones wherein we would hit our note at the correct time.

I couldn’t hit my note exactly and the music teacher proceeded to make an example / laughing stock out of me in front of the other kids. When I noticed that some of the other kids didn’t hit their note exactly right either, but did not suffer the same attitude adjustment, that put me right off of music for at least half my life.

I would always pass the music classes during grade school from that day forward wondering what my life would be like, if only I felt accepted for my little imperfections.

I also wonder how many other children have suffered the same fate because of heartless teachers who enjoy destroying young, developing egos.

Parents, in particular, need to understand the importance of participating in a child’s life in order to bolster their child’s confidence. By the time my parents had me, they didn’t care about my upbringing. I can’t help but wonder how many kids have suffered the fate of adults who pick and choose who they believe needs that extra support.

We must also realize that most adults are not much more than kids themselves, therefore, they don’t know how to raise kids. Their general philosolphy is, “my parents raised me fine, so I must know how to be a good parent too.” Therefore, the problem becomes generational.

How I wish I had access to the self improvement tools we have today. Fortunately, there are people like Jim McElwee who cover such a basic foundation of character as self confidence. Jim McElwee is like the Rudolph Steiner of self improvement and personal growth; he opens our eyes and hearts to these concepts that allow us to grow beyond our shortcomings bred into us by our so-called “mentors.”

Please enjoy part 1 of the following guest article by Jim McElwee:
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