Defeat Self Sabotage, part 4: Love of Spirit

This may be a simple concept, but there are too many people in this world who are not practicing love of spirit. Who is teaching us to experience love of spirit? Do we even know what “love of spirit” means?

Let’s explore this concept on how to feel love of spirit. I believe this is a key concept of eliminating and preventing self sabotage in rich and poor, young and old. Why? Let’s break down the concept, so we can understand “love of spirit” first.

Allow me to set some standards here, so everyone sees eye to eye on these concepts.


Love is a feeling of warm, personal attachement or deep affection as for a friend, parent, or offspring. We can have a strong or passionate affection for a person of the opposite sex which can include sexual passion, desire, and gratification. A strong predilection or liking for anything.

In essence, we expand towards that which please and gratify us with feelings of love. In contrast, we contract away from that which displease us with feelings of fear.

Spiritually, we have the benevolent affection of God for His Creatures or the reverent Affection of God due to them. Since we have mutual love of spirit in this world, let’s examine “spirit.”


“Spirit” is believed to be the non-corporeal principle of conscious life in the vital principle in humans. I have mentioned a number of times that we are actually spiritual beings intimately connected to physical bodies.

The spirit or soul is also our channel to higher dimensions in the universe. I will cover this principle in a moment. Right now, let’s explore a few origins of the concept of “spirit.”

The Breath The Mind and The Spirit

The opening verses of Genesis reveal the way the macrocosm was made:

“In the beginning, God created the heaven and the earth. And the earth was without form, and void; and darkness was upon the face of the deep. And the Spirit of God moved upon the face of the waters…” [Gen. 1:1-2]

The word for “spirit” for the ancient Hebrews (and for the Greeks and Romans) was the same as for “breath.” What is meant by the words “And the spirit of God moved upon the face of the waters” is that the breath of God caused visible ripples upon the dark mirror surface of the waters of chaos: Form from Formlessness.

The breath of Spirit that shaped chaos into the archetypal pattern of the world was not exhaled silently, but was articulated by Divine Will.

The concept of “speaking one’s mind” is equivalent to “sharing one’s spirit” in many languages such as the French “l’esprit” which means mind as well as spirit.

Now, recall this verse:

“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.” [Genesis 1:27]

You know what this means?

Since we’re in His Own Image, then what works for God must also work for us too: We shape our own realities according to how we think and what we say.

“Oh, we’re back to law of attraction,” you might say. Actually, our reality goes deeper than that. The law of attraction is a fringe benefit of our larger reality which is spiritual.

The law of attraction is nothing without the breath the mind and the spirit that wields it. The law of attraction is nothing but evil and darkness without the love and goodness of spirit that wields it.

Therefore, “Love of Spirit” is more than just self love, more than the love of others. Love of spirit is the passion and appreciation for the pure potential to create form from formlessness, to obtain gratification by shaping your own reality.

Because you are made in God’s Own Image, you can shape your own reality; this is God’s Gift to you. By shaping your reality based in love, you mutually gratify God’s Love.


This concept is basically the same as being lovers with someone. We want to be with someone who is conducive to our reality and our enhances our reality, therefore, we have expectations.

Lovers mutually feed each other’s reality, thus, they make a greater reality for each other; for this reason, the whole becomes greater than the sum of the parts between life partners.

If a partner fails to fulfill expectations, then we don’t want that partner. This usually happens in arranged marriages and marriages of convenience. In fact, very few people bother getting to know the social circle of their partners. This is especially true of males failing to understand the female social circles that define them.

A social circle is basically a shared spirit. A social circle can be family, friends, or even co-workers with whom you are very close. Each person in your partner’s social circle represents a spiritual facet of your partner.

Whenever you meet one of your lover’s friends, that’s a piece of your lover right there; that friend is an extension of your lover’s spirit. No, this doesn’t mean you’re going to seek gratification from the friend as well as your lover.

What this means is that you pay every bit of respect and homage to that friend because that’s a person representing your lover’s spirit. You want to know each person in your lover’s social circle because they each represent a facet of your lover, some of which you may not be aware until you explore.


The same concept applies to your lover’s passion. We all have a passion. In the context of this article, I’m referring to passion based in feelings of love and goodness – which is usually productive in some way.

This can include their line of work, their hobbies, their favourite past time. You want to make things easier, more exciting, more passionate and enlightening for your partner.

You want to feed your partner’s passion. You want to fan the flames of their passion to enhance and inspire your lover’s reality. Of course, this is a two way street. When it’s only “one way” it quickly becomes “no way.” That’s why lovers are people who are conducive to each other’s reality, so they can support each other’s passion.


Like God, your partner is there to feed your reality, to love your spirit in every way, shape, and form. When the love is spiritual, the love is mutual, then the passion grows. This is like faithful Love of God; there is mutual benevolence and reverence between lovers because they have great respect of each other’s spirit.

We are all individual aspects of God (according to the holographic paradigm). When you can see God in your lover, this is the greatest form of respect.

I’m not talking about seeing priests, cardinals, bishops, the pope, or your minister in your lover. I’m talking about worshipping God through your lover through mutual benevolence and reverence.


Lovers are greater together – even when they’re physically apart. Through mutual gratification, they inspire each other. Lovers represent each others spirit. Your lover is the strongest part of your social circle. Because of this your lover (should) represent the strongest part of your spirit as you do the same.

In doing this, you provide each other inner strength, stamina, creativity, enlightenment, greater health, wealth, well being, peace, happiness, and freedom, eternal and unconditional. You have all of these things because your lover’s spirit lives inside of you. Because of these things, your reality is greater, enhanced, and inspired to even more greatness.

Love Yourself, First

At this point, you might be wondering, “what does any of this have to do with me? I don’t have a lover. I’m too busy being a self defeatist.”

Obviously, before you can experience love with others, you have to experience love of yourself. How do you do that? You already know how to do that.

You do it by feeding yourself. For example, the first act of love by a mother to her child is feeding him. Return to the basics: Feed your Spirit.

Maybe you already do that through art like music or dancing. When you feed your passion, you love your spirit. And your spirit likes varieties of love, not just a few hours a day, but all the time.

A problem arises when we get into activities that supress and sedate our spirit; this is akin to supressing and sedating our passion. This can happen a number of ways, especially when a person is raised with beliefs based in fear – then there’s tension going hand in hand with sedation and supression.

Assuming you want to get rid of all the negative feelings that are supressing you, this means you should forgive yourself, but above all, you need to feed yourself.


Here’s one forgiveness exercise from Holy Life, HealingMindN, “Releasing and Forgiveness – Spiritual Clarity:”

Visualize a white balloon. Instead of air, fill it with all people, places, things, or events that trouble you from past or present situations, including your fears of the future. Bless each as you put it into the balloon watching the balloon inflate as if filling it with air. After all conscious negativity is out of your mind and into the balloon, tie it off with a brown string. Hold onto the brown string feeling the tension in it. This tension represents the conflict of your wanting to let go yet your unwillingness to do so. Next, visualize and feel yourself letting go of the balloon. Watch it float off into the sky until it disappears. Empower the vision with this thought: I forgive and release all negativity from my mind. They are gone forever and I cannot take them back. Know that God takes care of and purges these burdens for you.

This is one type of meditation/visualisation that you can do to help lift those barriers that are holding you back. You can also revisit part 2 of this series of emotional freedom techniques.

If you’ve already done EFT and you’ve forgiven yourself, then you want to keep feeding your spirit with love constantly. This is more of a lifestyle rather than a meditation or a spiritual exercise. Rather than simply know the laws of living life, you want to live it. This begins with the way you speak to yourself and with others.

Speak Your Reality

What do you talk about during the day? What’s usually on your mind? What is your passion?

This is your reality.

You shape your reality constantly according to your communications, your mind pattern, and your passion. If you are a self defeatist in any way, this means that your lifestyle is somehow perpetuating self defeat.

What I’m saying is that you are perpetuating a model of living that was impressed upon you. If it’s a self defeating attitude, then this is not what you want.

There are people in war torn countries living in drought and famine who have never given up on their own lives, yet there are people in “civilised” society who have a roof over their heads and full stomachs, yet, somehow, their hearts have been emptied and their spirits have been broken to the point where they want to take their own lives.

How does this happen?

It’s the way we speak our reality. When we speak our minds about what we feel is reality, we create our reality. We speak our reality according to the way we’re raised.

When we’re young impressionable children, others speak our reality for us. For example, when parents, teachers, and peers praise kids for a job well done or their potential for doing a job well done, that becomes the child’s reality. The child feels love, thinks in terms of goodness, and begins the journey to fulfilling his passion.

The opposite is true when children are cursed by parents teachers and peers. School mandated neuroleptics and anti-depressants are an even worse curse when children are blamed for not having a proper attention span in a hyperactive, sugar coated, mercury laced society based in fear, but I digress.

The point I want to drive home is that being self defeatist is not your fault, but it is your responsibility to remove this frailty that’s been impressed upon you. Why? Because noone else is going to do it.

Unrequited Love

If you are a self defeatist, then your spirit is suffering from unrequited love. When we’re raised in a culture based in fear and hatred, then your passion (based in love) has been supressed.

Fortunately, although you may have been raised to disregard the spirit, your spirit has always been there for you. Your spirit drives you and inspires you to want more out of life. Your spirit is a connection to the spirits of those around you. Your spirit is also a connection to higher dimensions. Altogether, your spirit is a connection to God.

God wants us to be great; this is God’s Will [Mark 11:23-25]. We are each individual aspects of God. When we disregard our spirits, we disregard God.

God loves Us when We love God. Let’s return to the lover’s analogy for a moment:

Can you imagine having a secret admirer? What if you knew that this secret admirer could do amazing things for you? What if you knew this secret admirer could enlighten you and inspire you to enhance your life and help you in ways you never thought possible? Would you be interested in allowing this secret admirer into your life?

Of course, you want to be safe and in control. You may feel that you don’t really know this secret admirer, but this secret admirer sends you love letters in your dreams. How can you possibly avoid a secret admirer who talks about fulfilling your secret passions in your dreams? You don’t.

You find a way to fulfill your dreams because this is what your spirit wants. This is what God Wants.

Your Spirit is a High Achiever

Did you know that your spirit is an athlete, an artist, and a scientist all in one?

Well, it is. Your spirit wants to keep pushing to be faster, stronger, more powerful, more precise, more creative, more resourceful, and smarter. A spirit based in love wants it all with a “reach for the stars” kind of gusto. A spirit in love is extremely ambitious.

As in any love relationship, you should provide your spirit exotic, exciting ways to fulfill those dreams, desires, and ambitions. Beyond fulfilling earthly desires, your spirit wants to build its own business, build its own bank account, and go on its own vacations.

When you’re in love, and I mean really in love, your spirit wants the equivalent of getting into a Ferrari and driving full speed down the Audabon, then have that Ferrari turn into a flying saucer and launch into space at the speed of light.

What? You never had any weird dreams? Of course you did. That’s because your spirit loves crazy psychic experiences and paranormal phenomena. That’s your spirit’s passion; that’s how your spirit flexes its muscles.

Do you want to love your spirit? Yes? Then feed your spirit’s passion. This means going down those roads less traveled. Like a secret lover, no one has to know how you’re fulfilling her or him. You only have to know that you have mutual love and respect in a loving relationship – with your spirit.

When you give your spirit psychic exercises, say like remote viewing exercises, you’re giving your spirit an exciting workout. Do you know what atrophy is? That’s what happens to any part of you that you don’t exercise; it becomes weak, flabby, and neglected.

When you exercise parts of yourself that haven’t exercised in a while, it’s difficult at first. That’s why we always start with small weights and jog as far as we can, then we keep building up. We keep looking for positive feedback, no matter how small (or big).

The same applies to psychic exercises like remote viewing and remote influencing; it’s difficult at first, so you start small and work your way up. You have a constant source of counseling like a personal trainer when you use the ARVARI Course. You take baby steps as you observe that positive feedback keep growing.

Your spirit becomes faster, stronger, more alert, more precise, more aware of the universe in ways that you may have never imagined until you tap into those higher dimensions using remote viewing. Your spirit returns the favour with excitement, inspiration, and revelation.

Most importantly, there is no room for a self defeatist attitude where there is a love of spirit. When you have mutual gratification of yourself, you can expand your powers to the ones you love. “In His Own Image,” you also create form from formlessness.

Thanks for your time.

Healing Thoughts, HealingMindN,

Randolph Fabian Directo

P.S. The .pdf manual of the four part series is now available here as “How to Conquer Self Defeat.” This version has increased ease of use, readability, and smoother flow of thought with the underlying tone of creation with you, the reader as creator of your own reality. Thanks for visiting!

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