Foundation of Success: Self Confidence, part 1 of 4



There are certain basic foundations of character that I do not cover at my site. One of them is self confidence. We need self confidence to trust our instincts, our intuition, and, of course, our psychic powers.

We all must take those necessary steps, no matter how small, in order to bolster and strengthen our self confidence to do what’s necessary and good for ourselves and the people closest to us.

Since I was very young, I had a kind of “shell” that detoured from self confidence. As I recall from when I was a 5th grader with Miss English as my instructor, there was an after school music instructor who introduced concepts of music to the class by our participation in a song with one note xylophones wherein we would hit our note at the correct time.

I couldn’t hit my note exactly and the music teacher proceeded to make an example / laughing stock out of me in front of the other kids. When I noticed that some of the other kids didn’t hit their note exactly right either, but did not suffer the same attitude adjustment, that put me right off of music for at least half my life.

I would always pass the music classes during grade school from that day forward wondering what my life would be like, if only I felt accepted for my little imperfections.

I also wonder how many other children have suffered the same fate because of heartless teachers who enjoy destroying young, developing egos.

Parents, in particular, need to understand the importance of participating in a child’s life in order to bolster their child’s confidence. By the time my parents had me, they didn’t care about my upbringing. I can’t help but wonder how many kids have suffered the fate of adults who pick and choose who they believe needs that extra support.

We must also realize that most adults are not much more than kids themselves, therefore, they don’t know how to raise kids. Their general philosolphy is, “my parents raised me fine, so I must know how to be a good parent too.” Therefore, the problem becomes generational.

How I wish I had access to the self improvement tools we have today. Fortunately, there are people like Jim McElwee who cover such a basic foundation of character as self confidence. Jim McElwee is like the Rudolph Steiner of self improvement and personal growth; he opens our eyes and hearts to these concepts that allow us to grow beyond our shortcomings bred into us by our so-called “mentors.”

Please enjoy part 1 of the following guest article by Jim McElwee:

I’d like to take a look at the important concept of self confidence. The perception of oneself is one of the single most important factors along with hard work toward achieving success both socially and while working with others professionally. Indeed, self confidence is often cited as the single most important aspect of one’s personality when determining success. The logic here is that while qualifications and determination are important factors, these would not actually get a hard working individual the success they could ultimately enjoy if they did not exercise their self worth.

Our tools are here to help you. The mind is constantly imposing limitations on itself. It ends up being like a fog that makes our goals ultimately difficult to see. We can intellectually see what makes us happy, but we lack the confidence to make those dreams into real world plans. Our entrainment therapy can help with this. Self discovery is a lifelong process, but with this fog hanging over you it will be impossible to pick a direction to navigate yourself to your ultimate destiny. Check out our confidence entrainment therapy.

The Great Earl Nightingale said it perfectly when he spoke the same words told over and over again from generation to generation and repackaged as the greatest secret ever kept from the hard workers in the world: You are what you think about. Think to yourself. What is success? What do I have to do before I finally sit back, nod to myself and say, “I’ve done it. I am a success.” Some would say this is an impossible endeavor while others would simply hold their hands up and shake their heads, themselves never exploring their full potential.

The reality is the things that make you a success are your own worthwhile goals achieved over time. People who sell confidence in seminars or long length novels are nine times out of ten selling this simple secret that has been told and retold throughout the ages. There it is for free. Knowledge rightfully has a reputation as being a very powerful thing. The simple truth is, have the confidence to pick the goal you want. Define your destiny in one sentence and stick to it.

We live in one of the most incredible times in history to be alive. The world is changing every day and we have it in ourselves to make an empire without using anything more than our minds. And yet it is also one of the most complicated and seemingly daunting of worlds as well. The economy worldwide is taking a turn for the worse, people are frightened of their own financial ruin, and everyone seems to be reserving their money rather than working to carve a larger place for themselves in the world. The simple fact of the matter is, there is an epidemic of poor self confidence, and it’s not your fault.

95% of people are shaped by circumstance or the world around them. When asked why people work, 19 out of 20 people will tell you they have no idea why. They get up in the morning and work because everyone else around them does it. They need money so they can survive and keep working. They follow others and lack the confidence to realize their own worthy goal. They show no interest in investing in themselves because they lack the faith that they can achieve such a goal. These 95% of people live like an orchestra without a conductor. With no worthy goal, the only way they will play music is by chance alone. And chance alone cannot favor 95% of people. Self confidence and a worthy goal are the true secret to living the life you want. It’s as simple as that.

Look at the successes you’ve seen. Are they downtrodden individuals who are caught adrift in life’s circumstances? If you really think about it, you’ll realize the most successful people are adventurous and above all else exude an almost intoxicating self confidence. And as you look back on their lives you’ll realize that these were not people who gained self confidence as a result of their success. Quite the reverse. They were confident and therefore achieved success. Now that you know, the time has come to make a decision. What life will you lead?

Next time let’s take a look at the aspects of social success through self confidence. There are dozens of pessimistic and dehumanizing guides to dating that results in heartless individuals seeking love in all the wrong places ultimately leading fruitless lives of desperate loneliness. With simple friendly language we can learn what comes naturally to us. Remember that the mind is like a fertile plot of land. You can choose to let it become overrun with weeds or simply till it and plant fruitful trees and enjoy the benefits for years afterward.

The future is in our hands. Let’s make it a good one.

Jim McElwee

Please stay tuned for part 2 of Foundation of Success: Self Confidence. The next post is The Key to Defeating Evil through Remote Influencing in Psalms 73.